Where are you dangerous?

The other night I was having dinner with a friend and the question, “Where are you dangerous?” came up. At first, it took me a bit aback. There was something about the question itself that felt dangerous, something that when the question itself truly landed in me, scared me a bit. This was understandable, too, as it’s easy, and really, safe, not to think of our lives in this context. After all, we’re all doing the best we can in any given moment, and most of us are conditioned to move away from things that scare us, or are even […]

Should “Popularity” Matter to You as An Adult?

Finding Connection Without Taking Sides It’s been decades since I was in high school. Since leaving, I had forgotten about the popularity paradigms that plagued most awkward teenagers throughout their adolescent years. Yes, since then, occasionally I have been pressured to drink when I haven’t wanted to, and on a rare moment, I see people seeking to be, look and act cool. But, really, I haven’t given it much thought since I was 17. That is, until I went on a trip to Ecuador, paired with a bunch of strangers, ranging from ages 17 to sixties plus. At first it […]

Why You Should Cry More

why you should cry

How Our Tears Lead to Increased Happiness and Presence I want to talk about a question I’ve been getting a lot lately – about crying. I know, as a society, we’ve been conditioned not to cry, especially not in public, and even worse, that our tears are wrong. But what if our tears are the key to releasing our pain? And, what if every time you hold in your pain and don’t release it, you increase the odds of it happening again? Let me explain. When we’re kids, we have many difficult moments that happen, but unfortunately, with messages like, “Toughen […]

The biggest thing that’s stopping you from having the life you want

The biggest thing that’s stopping you from having the life you want I’ve been working on a Pattern-Breaking Group Program, and as part of this, I’ve been thinking a lot about patterns. And, I’ve come to realize that the biggest thing that is stopping us from having the life we want is our patterns. So, first of all, what is a pattern? A pattern in the way that I define it is a set of behaviors, beliefs, emotions, blocks or energies that keep recurring over and over in your life. One super common pattern I see is settling for less […]

How to Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Heart

How to Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Heart

How I Moved Past Struggle & Logic to Everyday Joy Truthfully, I never thought I’d be able to fully do this. It always felt easier, safer and more comfortable to do what was logical and to do what my head said was right.  So, when I started this journey, I thought, I’ll try, and worst case, I can always go back. Along the way, there have been many bumps in the road. For me, it’s meant many weekends working while I was still at my full-time job. It’s meant going against the grain despite what people thought or said. It’s […]

(Vulnerable post) My Truth Is…

What to do when You're Struggling

What To Do When You’re Struggling I know when I write a post or share a video I’m always excited, happy and smiling. But it wasn’t always this way. Anyone that really knew me 10 years ago would’ve known how much I struggled. I struggled with being focused on that ever-elusive happiness (and perfectionism). I struggled with knowing why I was here. I struggled with wanting to be loved. I kept settling for less than I desired and deserved. And, it wasn’t that long ago that I reached my breaking point. I was at a family friend’s house crying and […]

But I’d rather go on vacation…

I’m heading off to Ecuador soon for fun and adventure, and as I prepare to take this vacation, I am reminded of the first time I chose to work on myself on vacation versus take a fun, “adventure-filled” trip. I was having a conversation with a friend, and I remember when I told him how much I was investing in myself, his reply was simple and memorable: “But, Deb, I’d rather spend that money on vacation!” And, trust me, I totally got it and I was not here to convince him (or you!) otherwise. What I do want to share, […]

It’s been a rough couple of weeks…

It’s been a bit rough lately, and I wanted to share this piece of my journey with you, because I think it’s important for you to know that my life isn’t perfect and nor do I want it to be. The downs are what make the ups so sweet. And, while people have told me that I made moving into entrepreneurship look easy, just like anyone else, it’s not always been easy. This week, I created a video to share my last couple of weeks and all of the ups and downs of this ride we call life. As part […]