How I Changed the Way I Look at Relationships (and Break-Ups) to Create a New Experience in Love

It wasn’t too long ago that I felt like a big failure in relationship. I’d meet a guy, get excited about the possibilities and subconsciously, my abandonment pattern would kick in and I would be worried that they were going to leave before we even got started. They would feel this pressure from me, even if I never said a word, and within a short period of time, I would have created a self-fulfilling prophecy. It took a dramatic shift in the way I looked at everything in relationship (and even in break-ups) to create a new experience. Here’s what I […]

Why I Don’t Always Recommend Asking a Psychic About Love + Next Online Group Energy Clearing

I can’t believe it’s February already! I know many consider this the month of love (I’d like to believe all months are the months of love! :)), and with this, I want to talk about a common pattern that I see when it comes to finding and having long-term love in our lives. Have you ever been to a psychic before, seeking answers about love? Me too – everything from when will he be here to is the person I’m dating the one. And, while these are understandable questions meant to help relieve the anxiety that we can feel when […]

How to Take Control of Your Life

It wasn’t even six years ago now. While I had a successful career, the thing that I wanted most – a relationship – seemed completely out of reach and like it was never going to happen. And, truth be told, no matter how successful I was in my career, I felt unhappy, and really, powerless, to change this piece of my reality. No matter what I did, and what I tried, I felt like I was on the hamster wheel of life and it was always going to be this way. That is, until I found a new way to […]

Why I Loved This Year

Every year, I love to reflect on the year’s adventures, what I’ve learned, how I’ve grown, and really, what the theme of the year has been. And, as I reflect on this year, I realize that this was the year of creation. It was the year of moving out of my victim story and any thought that life is just happening to me, and really, into owning the powerful creator that I am, the powerful creator that we all are, if we choose to see and embrace it. Boy, did I have a lot of fun – creating my business, […]

Happy Holidays – My Wish to You

I know this time of year it can be easy to get caught up in the world of “stuff”. But, it’s in the every day and everyday where the gift truly lies. For me, yesterday as I walked home in the fresh snow and my first snowfall of the year, I felt it. I felt the miracle of being alive and the magic of the holiday. I breathed it in and all of the blessings that this year has bestowed on me. More time with family and friends that truly matter to me. More abundance than I could hope for. And, really, a world […]

My Personal Struggle Over the Holidays

I remember the last holiday season I had with my mom. It was over 20 years ago now, and I remember it being a really hard time. She had put in for leave at work, and while at the time I didn’t fully understand the gravity of what was happening, it was like there was a dark cloud over us, and really, a heaviness, and no matter what we did during that time, it was always there. She ended up passing away only a couple of months later, and it was devastating, though this would only be the beginning of […]

Why I Don’t Always Recommend Gratitude

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, gratitude has been on my mind. And, while I have a regular gratitude practice that you can read about below, before I do this, I want to address the pitfalls that can occur when we’re working exclusively with gratitude. Often we are taught when something isn’t working for us or when something goes wrong to go immediately into being grateful for it. And, while this can work, it often doesn’t work when there’s a charge, trigger or untruth to it. Let me explain. Say a family member hurt you at some point in your […]

The biggest issue (and growth opportunity) you’re likely unaware of

Years ago, when I was just getting into this work, the therapist I was working with at the time used to tell me all the time, “Deb, you’re not being relational.” I remember at the time not even fully understanding what this meant, let alone being able to incorporate it into how I was showing up. But, what I’ve come to realize is this is one of our biggest issues (and growth opportunities) in today’s world. So, first of all, let me explain what this means, in case this term is new to you, or even if, like me, you […]

Have You Been Feeling Alone – My Story + Upcoming Workshops

This past month brought me to my knees. With everything from a car accident to getting audited and many things in between, life was making me its bitch. 🙂 In all seriousness, though, I was really struggling, and I found myself at times, shaking and scared to leave my house. And, I think it’s in the times when we’re going through hard times when it can be most noticeable how alone we are, especially if you’re single. As part of this rough time, it hit me hard that I felt ashamed to be single. Having done the hard work to […]

(Confession): How I’ve been feeling fear…

I want to share a piece of my process, and really, a confession, in the hopes it can help you on your path. 🙂 So, a little over a month ago, I got a strong hit of the next step on my journey. My mission, should I choose to accept it: 🙂 Bringing energy clearing into the Corporate World. As the idea rushed in, I felt the excitement and the knowing that this was one of my next steps. But then something happened that had me at a standstill: Fear. I noticed all the versions of the way this was showing […]