How to Heal Your Relationships + The Importance of This

by Deb Acker
Posted on August 17, 2019August 17, 2019
Abandonment

I hope you’re having a good start to your weekend! I work with a lot of successful women (plus a few special guys :)), helping them to heal themselves and their relationships. With this, it never fails to surprise me to see the impact that our childhood and our relationships have had during this pivotal time on many of our present-day experiences. A few examples: – A woman I worked with who had a ton of anger towards her father and then was projecting this onto her partner and child, not realizing that her anger was actually rooted in not […]

I hope you’re having a good weekend! Just wanted to stop by and drop a quick note about something you may be needing to hear, related to the things that you’re desiring that maybe haven’t happened yet. So, recently, I was having dinner with a friend and she brought up a concept that I hadn’t heard before, but made a lot of sense with my own personal experience around creating what I wanted in my life, a message I would have loved to have heard earlier. What was this concept? That creating something from the light (and light energies) takes […]

For awhile now, when I’ve heard the phrase “You’re the sum of the five people you spend the most time with,” it’s never felt right to me. In fact, it’s actually rubbed me the wrong way. While, for a long time, I didn’t get why, and I tried to fall into what other highly-successful people and coaches were saying, I could feel the dissonance that lay underneath this. So, as with anything that pokes at me, I began to ask why. Why didn’t this feel true to me, and most importantly, why did this idea get under my skin so much? […]

So, yesterday, I was at a family reunion. Even though, this is a part of my family that I had only connected to just a few years ago, family can have a way of (mostly unintentionally) bringing up our stuff and yesterday, I had this experience with someone I hadn’t met before. For me, for quite some time, this thought that was working against me, and really, what I’ve been wanting to create in my life, had been lying in the background. While I was partly conscious of it and I knew I would need to address it to accelerate […]

I met someone the other day… Another human. He had come into my place to deliver a new microwave, and it reminded me of the times in my past when I wouldn’t have even acknowledged his presence. Subconsciously, I may have even treated him less than due to his job or felt that I didn’t need to acknowledge him because he wasn’t family, a friend or someone I knew. This time, though, I felt an instinctual pull to speak to him, to acknowledge him, and really, to acknowledge his humanity. I do this often. When I’m walking. At the gym. […]

We’ve spent our whole lives being taught our emotions are wrong, resisting them and believing that feeling our feelings hurts. But, what if, instead of this old paradigm, we were raised believing that feeling our feelings is one of the biggest keys to a rich, deep life? What if we were taught that we can only allow in as much joy as we can sadness, anger, hurt, etc. and when we limit our range of feelings, we limit our life? What if, with this, we were not only taught this, but we were given the tools to actually be able […]

Self-love is a hot topic these days, and I get asked a lot about what self-love is and how to take steps towards more self-love in our lives. For me, years ago before I started a true self-love journey, if you had asked me if I loved myself, just like most people, I likely would have said yes. But, through my journey, I’ve come to realize while I believed this, I showed up in many ways that weren’t loving. So, in order to better understand what self-love is, let’s first start with what not loving ourselves looks like. When we […]

As I put myself out there in new ways, I am realizing just how many people have a hard time communicating their no. This used to be challenging for me, too, (and sometimes still is!). I remember, years ago, many times finding myself saying yes, even when I meant no, or awkwardly turning someone down, or even lying, to get out of something just because I didn’t know how to say no. But, as I’ve taken this journey to truth, connecting to my no and then knowing how to share it in a way that’s kind and clear, I realize […]

I wanted to share a behind-the-scenes (challenging) story with you from completing my first book, Living Deeply: A Transformational Journey Through Deep Pain, Loss and Abandonment to Healing, Self-Love and Miracles and some great lessons and things that happened from it. With this, this story will help you understand why something may feel “right” or aligned, but doesn’t necessarily “work out,” and it includes how I undid the feeling of always running out of time. So, a-year-and-a-half-ago, as I began writing my book, I started thinking about who I was going to self-publish with, and I landed on a self-publisher that felt right […]

Many of you know that my first book, Living Deeply: A Transformational Journey Through Deep Pain, Loss and Abandonment to Healing, Self-Love and Miracles, is finally out, and I wanted to share something special with you here—an excerpt from it. It is so vulnerable to share many of the stories you will find in this book publicly, but I know I have to, not only because knowing it’s okay to share these is part of my journey, but also as a healer and human being. That being said, if you’re looking to go deeper on your healing journey, if you’re looking […]