We’ve spent our whole lives being taught our emotions are wrong, resisting them and believing that feeling our feelings hurts.
But, what if, instead of this old paradigm, we were raised believing that feeling our feelings is one of the biggest keys to a rich, deep life? What if we were taught that we can only allow in as much joy as we can sadness, anger, hurt, etc. and when we limit our range of feelings, we limit our life?
What if, with this, we were not only taught this, but we were given the tools to actually be able to feel our feelings in real time and this was normal, and maybe even at some point felt good, as it gave us permission to feel safe with ourselves, instead of us being too emotional or too much (and even deeper, a fear of not being loved), when we had a feeling different from happiness?
What if, as well, we knew that storing our emotions in our body, and not feeling them, not only led to disease and dis-ease, but actually attracted the exact situations (and emotions) we were resisting and in general, made us feel bad?
What would life be like? How would our actions, and really, our relationship with our emotions, change?
If you’re looking for a new way that can lead to a deeper, richer life and experience, but have struggled with this, start with anger.
Anger is usually the cover-up for sadness, hurt, grief and pain, to name a few. So, many times, when we go to try to feel these, if we haven’t felt the anger first, it will feel blocked and impossible to feel what’s underneath it.
With this, feeling this may not be a one-and-done thing. You might have to come back to it over and over until one day you find yourself feeling what’s underneath it.
One of my favorite ways to feel anger is to punch, kick and scream. Damn, it can feel good, even in my high-rise apartment. Just ask my neighbors. 🙂
In all seriousness, if you’re feeling stuck with this (or stuck in general), I encourage you to give this a try. You’ll feel liberated and lighter, opening the space for more. And that was always the point anyways.
To more depth + breadth of life,