Why I Don’t Always Recommend Gratitude

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, gratitude has been on my mind. And, while I have a regular gratitude practice that you can read about below, before I do this, I want to address the pitfalls that can occur when we’re working exclusively with gratitude. Often we are taught when something isn’t working for us or when something goes wrong to go immediately into being grateful for it. And, while this can work, it often doesn’t work when there’s a charge, trigger or untruth to it. Let me explain. Say a family member hurt you at some point in your […]

The thing that stops us from having the life we want: Our Patterns

How to Identify and Clear Our Patterns and Be True to Ourselves I work with a lot of people around their patterns and pain, and what I’ve come to realize is this is the single-biggest thing that’s stopping us from having the life we want. So, first of all, what is a pattern? A pattern in the way that I define it is a set of behaviors, beliefs, emotions, blocks or energies that keep recurring over and over in our lives. One super common pattern I see is settling for less than you desire and deserve in your life. Many times, […]

What Causes Our Patterns and How to Heal Them

I work with a lot of women who come to me with things they are wanting in their life. This can include everything from attracting their love partner to making more money and everything in between. And, the one common thing I see is, while they have a strong desire for what they are wanting, they are subconsciously stopping this from occurring because of patterns and pain they’ve taken on and experienced in their childhood. Let me explain. Say, for instance, you are desiring a love partner. You may even have no difficulty meeting men. Unfortunately, though, the men you do […]

Are you protecting yourself unnecessarily?

Three Ways We Try to Have Control in Our Lives I want to talk to you about the ways we protect ourselves. For me, I’m noticing that, many times, to try to protect myself or keep myself safe, I try to determine an outcome before I step forward. For example, if I’m putting my work out to a group, I’ll try to figure out if they’ll say yes and even think that if I word something a specific way or say too much/too little, this can have an impact. This gets magnified with being super intuitive, as I’m constantly trying […]

Where are you dangerous?

The other night I was having dinner with a friend and the question, “Where are you dangerous?” came up. At first, it took me a bit aback. There was something about the question itself that felt dangerous, something that when the question itself truly landed in me, scared me a bit. This was understandable, too, as it’s easy, and really, safe, not to think of our lives in this context. After all, we’re all doing the best we can in any given moment, and most of us are conditioned to move away from things that scare us, or are even […]

Should “Popularity” Matter to You as An Adult?

Finding Connection Without Taking Sides It’s been decades since I was in high school. Since leaving, I had forgotten about the popularity paradigms that plagued most awkward teenagers throughout their adolescent years. Yes, since then, occasionally I have been pressured to drink when I haven’t wanted to, and on a rare moment, I see people seeking to be, look and act cool. But, really, I haven’t given it much thought since I was 17. That is, until I went on a trip to Ecuador, paired with a bunch of strangers, ranging from ages 17 to sixties plus. At first it […]

Being Invisible and Hiding Out

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Hiding out and playing small are patterns. And you can break them…via @DeborahAcker Click To Tweet Do you ever feel invisible in your world? Maybe you’re playing smaller than you desire to and are hiding out from the work you know you’re meant to do in the world and stepping into the biggest version of yourself? I’ve been there. For years, I settled for less than I desired and deserved in my life. I’d walk into a room and feel invisible around people I’d known for years, people who were supposed to be my friends. I’d go to work and […]

My Mom’s Battle with Cancer When I was a Teen

What I Don’t Want You To Know About Me + Owning My Truth I did this video last week on Facebook Live on what was going on inside of me as a high school teenager, as my mom battled cancer. The video for me was edgy, to say the least, as I knew, even before I got on the video that, where I was that day, I would cry if I shared this story. Owning my truth But I just knew I had to share it. And after I did the video, a piece of me wanted to hide and […]

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What to do when You're Struggling

What To Do When You’re Struggling I know when I write a post or share a video I’m always excited, happy and smiling. But it wasn’t always this way. Anyone that really knew me 10 years ago would’ve known how much I struggled. I struggled with being focused on that ever-elusive happiness (and perfectionism). I struggled with knowing why I was here. I struggled with wanting to be loved. I kept settling for less than I desired and deserved. And, it wasn’t that long ago that I reached my breaking point. I was at a family friend’s house crying and […]