The thing that stops us from having the life we want: Our Patterns

How to Identify and Clear Our Patterns and Be True to Ourselves I work with a lot of people around their patterns and pain, and what I’ve come to realize is this is the single-biggest thing that’s stopping us from having the life we want. So, first of all, what is a pattern? A pattern in the way that I define it is a set of behaviors, beliefs, emotions, blocks or energies that keep recurring over and over in our lives. One super common pattern I see is settling for less than you desire and deserve in your life. Many times, […]

What Causes Our Patterns and How to Heal Them

I work with a lot of women who come to me with things they are wanting in their life. This can include everything from attracting their love partner to making more money and everything in between. And, the one common thing I see is, while they have a strong desire for what they are wanting, they are subconsciously stopping this from occurring because of patterns and pain they’ve taken on and experienced in their childhood. Let me explain. Say, for instance, you are desiring a love partner. You may even have no difficulty meeting men. Unfortunately, though, the men you do […]

Where are you dangerous?

The other night I was having dinner with a friend and the question, “Where are you dangerous?” came up. At first, it took me a bit aback. There was something about the question itself that felt dangerous, something that when the question itself truly landed in me, scared me a bit. This was understandable, too, as it’s easy, and really, safe, not to think of our lives in this context. After all, we’re all doing the best we can in any given moment, and most of us are conditioned to move away from things that scare us, or are even […]

Should “Popularity” Matter to You as An Adult?

Finding Connection Without Taking Sides It’s been decades since I was in high school. Since leaving, I had forgotten about the popularity paradigms that plagued most awkward teenagers throughout their adolescent years. Yes, since then, occasionally I have been pressured to drink when I haven’t wanted to, and on a rare moment, I see people seeking to be, look and act cool. But, really, I haven’t given it much thought since I was 17. That is, until I went on a trip to Ecuador, paired with a bunch of strangers, ranging from ages 17 to sixties plus. At first it […]

The Undoing of My Biological Clock

Previously Seen on Huffington Post As I get ready for my twenty year high-school reunion, I was thinking back to the woman I was at my ten-year. While she appeared to have it all together, I now realize that I didn’t know myself very well. Looking back, I can now see that I had a lot of pretenses about who I was supposed to be and had built a life from these “untruths.” What did this look like? I was seeking perfection. I was seeking success. I was seeking appearances. This meant a corporate job making six figures, though I […]

(VIDEO) – How to Rewire Your Brain for Happiness

I hope today finds you well! This week I want to share with you a Periscope Video I did on how to rewire your brain for happiness, as part of a Community that I’m part of. In this video, you’ll learn: – Why we are wired towards negativity – A four-step process you can use to move towards more positivity in your life – How to rewire your brain against negative thoughts and experiences You can check the video out below: And, I’d love to hear what you think about this tool and how, as you’re applying it, it’s impacting […]