|Recently, I had something come up in my life that’s been super hard, and to put it simply, is pushing all of my buttons. While I may go into details about what it is at another time, today I want to walk you through the soul perspective on this and what I do with it, including the discomfort, as it resolves itself. |
That being said, anytime something hard or uncomfortable happens in my life, one of my first thoughts, that I got from one of my coaches, is:
“I wonder how this is going to turn out better than I could even imagine.”
“I wonder what I’m meant to receive from this.”
Right there, this opens the space of possibilities and moves me out of the discomfort, and really, contraction, and into hope.
From there, I start to look at this from the soul perspective. Our soul sees everything as good, as whether it’s because it’s what we want or it’s growth, it’s all good. That being said, here are some questions from the soul perspective that I often ask myself:
How is this serving me, even if it’s hard?
What am I supposed to learn from this?
How did I create this?
And, even, how did I choose this?
In my situation, I am receiving the impact of another’s choice. The victim side of me wants to say I didn’t choose this, and wants to make this situation as hard as possible, and while I haven’t yet been fully clean about it because my feelings are hurt and it feels out of my control and I’m resenting that, there’s a part of me (my soul) that knows I’m getting a crash course in several things I recently asked for, and it’s genuinely changing me for the better. Right now, it’s absolutely uncomfortable, but it’s only temporary, and I will absolutely be more of who I’m meant to be in this world as a result of it.
Which leads me to the final thing I’m going to share today that I do when something like this happens.
I use it.
I don’t avoid it or hope it goes away. Well, maybe I do :), but only briefly, and then I use it for all it’s worth to heal or uplevel another part of me.
Typically, I do this by noticing how I’m responding (or what the inner soundtrack in my head is saying or doing, and with this, the energy that’s underneath it). Then, I talk to my inner child about it (and her experience), feeling completely what’s present for me. If I’m sad, I feel sad. If I’m angry, I feel angry. And, if I’m resentful, I feel that. (If you’ve never worked with the inner child, this is one crucial (and often undiscussed) tool to healing ourselves and our relationships, and one that I teach in my Putting an End to Painful Relationships Masterclass, which you can sign-up for here.)
With this, depending on the situation and what’s happened, I’ll do these practices nightly, until literally the moment has no charge, until it has no control over me or my thoughts or the way I feel, and most importantly, until I can show up in complete integrity, as my full, true self. This self is generous. She is kind. She is gracious. Most importantly, she is compassionate, and she takes the high road, no matter what someone else chooses.
This, my friends, is how we allow everything to serve us, and with this, how we waste no hard times.
After all, if you’re going through it, you might as well use it! (That feels like that could be a song. :)) AND, if you don’t use it, as we all experience at one point or another, the message often becomes louder.
To good growth through hard times,
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