The other night I was having dinner with a friend and the question, “Where are you dangerous?” came up. At first, it took me a bit aback. There was something about the question itself that felt dangerous, something that when the question itself truly landed in me, scared me a bit.
This was understandable, too, as it’s easy, and really, safe, not to think of our lives in this context. After all, we’re all doing the best we can in any given moment, and most of us are conditioned to move away from things that scare us, or are even edgy, like in this case.
So, as I sat with this question, and I allowed myself to go deeper and deeper with this, I noticed my veils coming down and it opening me to a deeper truth.
Simply put, you can run, but you can’t hide. 🙂
And, a few of the awarenesses that came up for me included:
- Where I don’t always share the things that bother me in my relationships, until it’s too late. This is definitely a work in progress…
- Where I have a hard time asking for what I want, need and deserve
- Where I allow people to only get so close
As I dug deeper and deeper, I realized the value of this question and the opportunity it reveals to let down all of our walls, if we truly let it, which is why I wanted to share this question with my community.
And, to be clear, this question isn’t about what’s lurking in dark alleys or tinted-window mini-vans, or maybe it is, so-to-speak. 🙂
Really, though, this question is about:
– The things you are and aren’t saying, doing and feeling
– What you choose in your life over everything else and where you chase and move from your ego
– Where you misplace your feelings or disconnect from them totally
– Where don’t acknowledge your needs, or on the opposite end, where you don’t factor your impact on another person
– Where your mind makes all of your decisions and rationalizes over your true desires
– Where you run away from yourself, your life and others
– Where you are lying to yourself and others
– Where you judge and criticize others and then do a different version of what you had criticized.
– Where you control, manipulate and don’t trust
– Where you avoid intimacy and being relational (many times, instead, using humor, “truth” and hiding)
– Where you stay when you shouldn’t
– Where you go when you should stay
I invite you to think about this, sit with this, and, really, to let it sink in. Let it nag at you, and even, let it haunt you. After all, it’s when we can own and honor our truth, and in this situation, when we can own where we’re not being true to ourselves, where our truth can truly set us free.
And, if you’re feeling brave, I invite you to post one answer to this question in the comments below. (I had 10 minutes to share this when I was with my friend!)