What Causes Our Patterns and How to Heal Them

I work with a lot of women who come to me with things they are wanting in their life. This can include everything from attracting their love partner to making more money and everything in between. And, the one common thing I see is, while they have a strong desire for what they are wanting, they are subconsciously stopping this from occurring because of patterns and pain they’ve taken on and experienced in their childhood. Let me explain. Say, for instance, you are desiring a love partner. You may even have no difficulty meeting men. Unfortunately, though, the men you do […]

Are you protecting yourself unnecessarily?

Three Ways We Try to Have Control in Our Lives I want to talk to you about the ways we protect ourselves. For me, I’m noticing that, many times, to try to protect myself or keep myself safe, I try to determine an outcome before I step forward. For example, if I’m putting my work out to a group, I’ll try to figure out if they’ll say yes and even think that if I word something a specific way or say too much/too little, this can have an impact. This gets magnified with being super intuitive, as I’m constantly trying […]

Where are you dangerous?

The other night I was having dinner with a friend and the question, “Where are you dangerous?” came up. At first, it took me a bit aback. There was something about the question itself that felt dangerous, something that when the question itself truly landed in me, scared me a bit. This was understandable, too, as it’s easy, and really, safe, not to think of our lives in this context. After all, we’re all doing the best we can in any given moment, and most of us are conditioned to move away from things that scare us, or are even […]

A Piece of Relationship Advice for Successful Women that No One’s Talking About

big love

As I move toward big love in my life and reflect on relationships past, it’s become clear to me why a love partnership hasn’t happened for me up until this point. My story is not unlike many. I grew up in a family where achievements and accomplishments were rewarded. Straight A’s. Check. Lots of extracurricular activities. Check. And, really, a life full of adventure, travel and doing. Check. Fast forward to when I entered the corporate world and this positive reinforcement worked really well to help me climb the ladder and move into six figures. It did not work well, […]

(Vulnerable post) My Truth Is…

What to do when You're Struggling

What To Do When You’re Struggling I know when I write a post or share a video I’m always excited, happy and smiling. But it wasn’t always this way. Anyone that really knew me 10 years ago would’ve known how much I struggled. I struggled with being focused on that ever-elusive happiness (and perfectionism). I struggled with knowing why I was here. I struggled with wanting to be loved. I kept settling for less than I desired and deserved. And, it wasn’t that long ago that I reached my breaking point. I was at a family friend’s house crying and […]

I’m rubber, you’re glue

It wasn’t too long ago. I was traveling and was boarding my domestic flight with a bit of a full bag, and while I hate to be the person trying to stuff their oversized luggage in the overhead compartment, the thing I dislike more is checking my luggage. On this particular flight, as I was doing this, there was a woman giving me a dirty look and smirking at me, which she did several times. And, as I got off the plane, I thought of the saying we used when we were kids, “I’m rubber, and you’re glue. Whatever bounces […]

I have a confession to make…

I think it’s time I told you something, and I hope you don’t hold it against me. 🙂 You see, I watch The Bachelor. Phew. I’m glad that’s off my chest. Seriously, though, while it is my one TV guilty pleasure, I got into it years ago before I started doing this work. So, now, even though I’m attuned to the energy behind it, I think there’s a lot it can teach us about ourselves, and with the ending of this season, there are some insights I wanted to share with you. After all, everything is an opportunity to see […]

Love is in and on the air!

With the upcoming holiday, I wanted to send out my most recent Periscope Truth Talk Tuesday on Love! In it, I talk about: – What truth looks like when you’re single and/or dating – My Truth Experiment in Dating – What’s important to look at before you get back together with your ex – What scarcity can look like around dating As well as some unconscious patterns you might have around this! You can watch my most recent video below and join me live on Periscope every Tuesday @deborahacker! Also, if you haven’t already and you like the above Periscope video […]

(VIDEO) Can you be honest AND kind?

I wanted to share a video I did on Periscope for my first Truth Talk Tuesday called, “Can you be honest AND kind?” This is a truly important topic to me, as I think we’ve been conditioned from early on to believe it’s not safe to be honest. And, while this can be true, there’s definitely another way! In this video, I talk about: –    Why we have a hard time being honest –    How honesty and kindness can co-exist –    How to shift when you’re angry (and kindness is the farthest thing from your mind!) –  […]