WHEN YOU WERE GROWING UP, WAS ONE (OR MORE) OF YOUR PARENTS NOT TRULY PRESENT IN YOUR LIFE? THIS MAY HAVE BEEN IN THE FORM OF THEM WORKING TOO MUCH, MANY TIMES JUST TRYING TO PUT FOOD ON THE TABLE DOING SOMETHING THEY DIDN’T LOVE. AT OTHER TIMES, IT WAS BECAUSE THEY WERE FOCUSED ON ANOTHER PASSION OR PERSON (WHETHER IT WAS A PARTNER, YOU COMPETING FOR ATTENTION WITH ONE OF YOUR SIBLINGS, OR BECAUSE THEY WERE SELF-INVOLVED, YOU FOUND YOURSELF COMPETING DIRECTLY FOR ATTENTION WITH THEM), MANY TIMES LEAVING YOU FEELING REJECTED. IN OTHER CASES, IT WAS BECAUSE OF YOUR PARENTS DIVORCING, A PARENT LEAVING, PASSING AWAY OR SUFFERING FROM ADDICTION AND EVEN, IN MANY CASES, A COMBINATION OF SEVERAL OF THE ABOVE.
Does any of this sound familiar?
And, with this, are you holding onto the pain of these experiences and taking this into every moment in your life because you somehow think it will make you feel better and maybe you even worry that, if you let it go and forgive them, somehow you are excusing their behavior or letting them off the hook?
Even deeper, how is this impacting the story of your life? What do you believe you can have? How has this impacted how you feel, how you show up, what you attract, including who you attract in your relationships and in your friendships? Have you struggled in your relationships, attracting the same type of person over and over? Were you always scared that at some point, they might leave, as, no matter what you did, that always seemed to happen anyways? Maybe you even had full-on relationships in your head that never truly manifested in the physical world? And, as part of this, did you accept “crumbs” just to be loved and ensure you wouldn’t be left, even though deep down you knew it wasn’t good enough and that you desired more?
Even further, are you struggling with anxiety and depression, which many times is rooted in the moment when you left yourself after your parent(s) left? (If you left yourself, it would be completely natural to feel anxiety. After all, if your energy isn’t in your body and is with someone else, of course this would be anxiety-producing!)
Maybe you’ve even sought help unsuccessfully. You’ve been to therapy or worked with other healers and coaches, sometimes for years or more, but nothing has seemed to fully work, and when it does work, there seems to always be more of the abandonment to heal.
With this, did you subconsciously blame yourself for your parents’ actions, and to try to have control or even subconsciously reverse what happened, do you find yourself continually obsessing, ruminating or overanalyzing in everything you do? After all, when you trusted that your parent(s) would be there for you, that didn’t go well, so can you really trust yourself? And, when you do obsess, you feel like you have control, which in some way, makes you feel better, even if it’s just for a moment.
And, even more importantly, what do you believe you can’t have as a result of this? Where in your life have you settled for less than you desire and deserve to avoid the reoccurrence of any future abandonment? Has it worked?
And, how is this impacting your ability to live a life of truth? After all, when our main centering point is trying to avoid abandonment, and we’re focused on or scared that someone’s going to leave us if we do what’s right for us, either way, we create it. Many times, as a result of this, too, we end up living in self-doubt and indecision, never truly being able to make a decision or know what’s right for us.
Even more significantly, where have you left or given up on yourself? Where have you let someone treat you disrespectfully because you didn’t want to be left, or subconsciously, you believed it was all you deserved? Where are you telling yourself that a desire you have isn’t important or will never happen because you can’t do it, you don’t have enough time or money or you’re not good enough? And, even more heart wrenching, where have you felt invisible, dismissed and like you are all alone and have no one you can count on in this world?
Let me tell you – it is impossible to live a life of truth, if we’re constantly focusing on being left, and as part of that, trying to create the opposite, which many times means compromising, putting others first at the cost of us, making ourselves small, stepping out of or not owning our power and maybe even disconnecting from our feelings and our truths through people pleasing, saying yes (even when we mean no) and perfectionism because we think if we’re not perfect or a good girl we won’t be loved, or even deeper-rooted, that if we have a different opinion from someone else, they will leave us.
So, instead, we put up a defense to protect ourselves from getting hurt. We pretend we have it all together even when we don’t. We pretend we don’t need help even when we do. And, we pretend that it’s enough to have a successful career alone, and maybe, even, this is where we get most of our value from.
It doesn’t have to be this way, though.
What if you could live in a world where you knew you could handle anything that was coming your way, even during the hard times? What if, as part of this, you were no longer carrying around the pain and hurt from your childhood? Most importantly, what if you knew you were enough, no matter what? And, with this newfound, deep-seeded wiring you were prepared to create the life you were truly desiring, and always subconsciously have known that you deserved?
To understand how you got here and how to get there, it’s important to look back at the beginning. And, from working with hundreds, if not thousands of people, here’s what I’ve come to realize:
Our childhood moments create our current reality. That is, until they are cleared, healed and shifted.
Let me explain.
When we are young, usually between the ages of 0 to 7, as we are watching our parents, we are subconsciously taking on (or choosing against) all of our parents’ patterns, emotions and truths. And, it’s as these moments are happening that we are making conclusions that are becoming the basis for our entire reality.
For example, if your parent leaves, you might be making up that this is just how life is. (I.e. – Everyone leaves.) If you parent has the paradigm of working hard to make money, you might make up that this is how you make money (and maybe even this is the only way to make money). And, if your parent does something hurtful, whether it’s intentional or unintentional, you might be making up that this is all that you deserve or that you will always get hurt. And, it’s in these moments that if we aren’t given the opportunity to express ourselves and have the voice we so desperately need to, that we take that energy into our body and make up conclusions about how the world works. Then, in order to get the love we didn’t get in that moment, we keep magnetizing it in our everyday reality, recreating the pattern over and over.
That is, until you take the energy off of the original moment.
THAT’S WHERE I COME IN.
From my work, I’ve learned the most effective ways to truly clear pain – quickly. This has helped my clients to clear their deeply-seed patterns, pain and traumas including:
- Attachment and holding onto things and people that are no longer serving you
- Emotional Abuse
- Disconnecting from our feelings
- Feeling Invisible
- Grief and pain from loss and separation, including divorce, death and suicide
- Lack of sense of self
- Obsessing, ruminating and overanalyzing
- Playing small and not being in your power
- People Pleasing
- The need to control, defend and be on the defensive
I’m here to tell you that you can clear the patterns and pain that you thought would define you your entire life. You don’t have to suffer or just manage them. And, in the clearing of this comes true clarity, allowing you to totally create a life that’s true for you and honors ALL of your desires!
Hi – I’m Deb, and to understand how I learned the above, including how to create quick, powerful, permanent change, and most importantly, how to clear deep-seeded patterns, pain and trauma, I want to share my story with you.
For me, this story starts before the age of two. It was at that time, that my dad left. And, while at the time, of course, he was leaving my mom, he wasn’t leaving me, my two-year-old self had no way to differentiate between him leaving her and him leaving me. And, while I wouldn’t realize it until decades later, in that moment when he left, I also left me. You see, I subconsciously thought I had done something wrong to make him leave. This would be the start of decades of subconsciously blaming myself, obsessing and ruminating because of this. Subconsciously I thought if I could just get control of what had happened, I might be able to change it.
As part of this, what I would later come to realize is that, in the moment my dad was leaving, two of the conclusions I made were: 1) Love equaled leaving. After all, my dad loved me, and yet he was leaving. 2) I would always be left. While I didn’t know it at the time, I would later see that, when this happened, these two conclusions got stored in my body as energy/emotions and ended up becoming the magnetizer for much of my experiences and relationships moving forward.
And, this fear of being left and trying to prevent it ever happening to me again, meant a lot of worrying during my childhood that something would happen to my mom, who, at the time, was my world, that would take her away from me. You see, she was always working, and I feared one day she just might not make it home.
Fast forward to when I’m 17, and my mom ended up passing away from cancer. And, while it may sound harsh to some, I do believe I played a role in co-creating that reality.
And, then I took these patterns of love equals leaving and I will always be left out into the dating world. And, needless to say, that did not go well.
So, years later, as I’m attracting the same type of man over and over and after spending a decade in unsuccessful therapy, (You know where you have awareness of your story, but this awareness alone doesn’t do anything to change it.) I went on a quest to change this, and really, to find love. At that time, I thought it was love of another. What I would find out was the love I was looking for was within.
It was shortly after this that I got diagnosed with love addiction. This helped me to put so many of the pieces together – the things I had been willing to put up with in the name of love, the focus on scarcity and accepting “bread crumbs”, even though I knew I should want more and maybe that I even deserved more, and of course, the way I was willing to do anything to be loved.
It took a lot of work, but I healed myself. I healed my addiction. I healed my grief. And, most importantly, I healed my abandonment pattern and the obsessing and ruminating that came with it to try to have control of something that I had no control over. (I know how painful it is to have a pattern that’s impacting all areas of your life and to think this will never change. I’m here to tell you this can and will change with the right help. For me, this is a big part of why I now do the work that I do and one important piece that I help my clients to heal.)
In the process, and as part of my mission, after experiencing how painful it was to know what was causing my pain and to not see it changing, I would uncover the quickest and most powerful ways to undo deep-seeded patterns, pain and trauma, and I would also find out that, because of the trauma I experienced at an early age, I was comfortable in the places most people weren’t willing to go.
Through my journey, I’ve learned that running away from myself, my emotions and my pain only caused more of it, and that your only true way out is in. Today, I embrace it all to feel the light in the darkness, the joy in the sadness and the perfection in it all. This has meant the ability to live in joy, no matter what’s occurring, and that my joy is abundant(!) and independent of the people, places or things that are in my life. It’s also meant that I’m free to express all of my emotions and that I don’t live my “should’s” or obligation. I live life for me, on my terms.
On the flip side, I’ve studied everything from business, sales and advertising/marketing to transformation, spirituality, personal growth and various healing modalities. I spent 20 years in the Corporate World, and while I was there, I used energy clearing to make over a million dollars in sales (more than three times my sales goal and any of my previous years in sales!), without changing anything in my sales routine.
After I got on this path and my awakening, I made a decision to move out of the Corporate World because I realized your career should energize you, not deplete you. That you should wake up excited for every day of life, and while part of it is your perspective on what’s happening in your environment at any given moment, the other part is taking a stand for yourself, your life and your happiness.
And, guess what?! My life isn’t perfect, and I love this about me. I didn’t always think this way, though. I used to think that this was the end goal, that that was what I was working towards. I now realize the perfection is in the imperfection. That living in the now is what makes every moment. That my life is beautiful because of the range of emotions, not outside of it. (I used to get told I was “overly emotional” or “too sensitive”, so over and over, I would make these parts of me wrong. Now, I love these about me, and I’ve learned how to use these to dive deeper into life and live life fuller than I could have ever imagined and to use these as strengths in my work to help others to have their own version of this.)
Others will tell you, I’m extremely loyal, loving and intuitive. That our time together will take you deep quickly (I’ve had people experience their first awakening in as little as five minutes of energy clearing with me.) and that I’ve accomplished anything I’ve ever set my mind to. If you stick with me, I can help you do the same!
Want to know more? Check out the below for ways we can work together!
And, if you’re wanting support, but One-on-One Coaching isn’t a good fit, find out more about my Online and In-Person Energy-Clearing Workshops here!
I was so lucky to find Deb at the peak of a two year period of depression and anxiety. I’ve dealt with both for most of my life and while there were years that were better, it felt like something that would always be in the background. Deb is the only person I’ve worked with who was actually able to help me reframe my thinking and outlook on life. She took me back to the very beginning to figure out where a lot of my thinking stemmed from and challenged me to break these patterns. Things that I felt were just part of me like overthinking everything are now gone. I read something on her website that said one session with Deb is more valuable than years of therapy and that is 100 percent true. I am so much happier and lighter and for the first time I feel like I have the mindset and tools I need to get through anything. I have a healthier relationship with myself and everyone around me! Deb changed my life! – Ally S.
Deb helped me break a pattern that I had with my ex-husband where I felt dread and obligation about communicating with him. Every time he reached out, I felt I needed to respond, and she pinpointed exactly that my block was feeling powerless with him. She worked with me to remove that block, and I instantly felt stronger and more centered. Which of course was immediately tested by him. Something in me shifted and I was able to act in alignment with my power and truth with him in an unprecedented way. One session with Deb was more powerful than 10 years of therapy. – Stephanie C.
I learned more about my life and self in 4 months with Deb than in nearly 4 years of therapy! Her pattern-breaking sessions helped me identify what was holding me back in life and where those patterns stem from. Since meeting Deb I’ve found my path in life and more importantly, found myself. Couldn’t recommend her enough! – Sarah K.
It’s hard to put into words how much I’ve changed since working with Deb, but I’ll say this. For anyone desiring to do this work, I believe Deb can help you come from and respond with truth, authenticity and heart. Through the process she walked me through, which took the story out of everything that was holding me back, my life took on a new flow, with more ease, clarity and peace. This, all in love, kindness and understanding. If you believe you’re meant to be truly happy now and that you’re not meant to settle, Deb’s the coach for you! – Deb B.
It’s my mission to help you clear the patterns, pain and trauma that are holding you back. No one should have to carry this pain with them their entire life, and in addition to helping you clear this, I can show you how your pain can show you your wholeness and light, how it can take you higher than you've ever been, and really, how it can set you free, if you're willing to go there. It takes time, commitment and dedication, but if you are ready to live life on purpose, from your soul and this deep-seeded truth, which includes more love, light and abundance than you've ever dreamed, and are willing to do whatever it takes to make this happen because you are that important to yourself, I'd love to support you.
What would a life where you’ve cleared your deep-seeded patterns, pain and trauma look like? And, as part of this, what if you knew you could handle anything that came your way, and even deeper, that you deserved the world and back? Let’s find out together! Scroll down to find out more about my One-on-One Coaching Packages!
… Deb is amazing. She always made me feel like I could trust her and she was looking out for my best interest, she is very honest and intuitive. I get excited for my sessions every week. I love improving. This has been a game changer for me and now I’m ready to conquer the world! If you give her a chance and have a strong desire to change for the better, you will find similar results for your life. – Jenni F.
Deb’s work is completely different than any other coaching or therapy I have done; and as a therapist I have done much personal work myself. Her work comes from such a caring place of strength and understanding. She intuitively knows where to go while also allowing the client to be the ultimate guide and leader of their lives for creating dynamic change. She teaches how to be truly relational with oneself and others, and she shows her clients how to reconnect with all aspects of self through feeling one’s feelings in new ways to find our own truth. I have never experienced work like this before, and how tuned in and knowledgeable Deb is. What a gift it is to engage in this process with Deb! – Lexi M.
I was so curious when I first me Deb and she told me how she helps people clear old patterns that continue to affect their life. The idea of connecting with someone that can help me grow and have a more enjoyable life is something I’m drawn to. After only a few shorts conversations and one clearing session, Deb has provided tremendous insight and value to my life. Specifically, she helped me to recognize that I had a pattern of putting other’s care and well-being before my own and that it was actually negatively impacting the way I showed up as a mom for my four girls. I feel very grateful because after only the one session, my energy shifted very dramatically. Without even saying anything to my daughters, they have responded in a completely different way. Specifically, they have been more willing to help around the house and communicate their needs. It sounds almost unbelievable to me, accept that I have experienced how dramatic and change can be when only one person shifts their energy. I would highly recommend Deb to anyone that is interested in moving forward in a new direction in life! – Amanda H.
Deborah helped me identify and transform issues that have been holding me back my entire life. Since I started working with her, I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me. Because of this work, I get to show up in the world in a more authentic way, creating a life that’s really true for me. She is truly inspiring and great to work with! – Michelle P.
When I had the breakthrough session with Deb, I knew she would be the right coach for me. Her energy resonated with me and I knew that she would be able to assist me with my particular goal. I needed her guidance and techniques to move on from a stuck place in my life. I needed her help in raising my energy and awareness. – Marjo T.
Our time together is designed to help you:
- Clear your patterns, pain and trauma including abandonment, grief, anxiety and depression
- Clear your energy blocks to love, abundance (money!), career/soul purpose, health, intuition and more!
- Create and attract your dream relationship, career and life
- Discover your value and happiness within yourself to know you are always enough
- Connect to and feel your feelings to open to the joy that’s in every moment, not just the “good” moments
- Learn to put yourself first guilt-free and ask for help when you need it
- End the cycle of obsessing and ruminating about things
- Let go of control and attaching to outcomes
- Own, speak & move from truth
- Live from peace, calm and trust
- Step into your true power, so you can really be seen & heard, play big in life and manifest your desires quickly
- Access your intuition so you can find the answers within
- Unlock a world of infinite possibilities, with more ease, confidence & clarity
- Open to and live in presence, flow, magic and miracles
If you’re ready to join me, below are the ways we can work together. (And, if One-on-One Coaching doesn’t feel like the right fit, look for new Energy-Clearing Audios and Programs – Coming Soon!) And, of course, each session and package is tailored to your individual needs, desires and goals!
CLEARING PATTERNS, PAIN AND TRAUMA ENERGY-CLEARING PACKAGES
Pattern-Upgrade Session – One Session – First-Time Clients Only
Do you have one specific thing that you’re wanting to work on at the moment that you’re ready to see change? Maybe you’re new to energy clearing and/or working with me? Maybe you’ve even tried other coaches, modalities or even therapy, without much success? Whatever the case, get ready to upgrade to the next level with this session that is a great starting point to big change!
Energy-Evolution Package – Five Sessions
Are you ready to undo some of the old patterns, pain/trauma and stories that have been holding you back in your life? Maybe there’s one area of your life, many times a traumatic childhood moment, or something around love, abundance or soul purpose, that you’ve struggled with, and you’re ready to dive in to change it permanently? Whatever the case, this package is for you!
Energy-Expansion Package – Ten Sessions
Are you over where you are and ready for your life to look completely different? Are you ready to let go of the old stories, patterns and pain that are holding you back? Are you wanting to see transformation in multiple areas of your life that may include love & relationship, abundance, soul purpose and/or health? Are you desiring to tap into your soul’s messages and truths to really align and move towards your life’s purpose and passions? Are you ready to live in powerful presence each moment of the day and have a new awareness of yourself, others and life? Then, it’s time to clear what’s holding you back and expand into the life that’s calling you!
- Undo the old patterns, pain and trauma that are stopping you from creating what you are desiring, so you can have the love, abundance and life (to name a few!) that you’ve always dreamed of!
- Unravel everything that’s not you, including old patterns, stories and low-level energies, so you can really live and speak from your truth versus the world’s
- Shift into big awarenesses, awarenesses that may have been previously unexplored
- Raise your consciousness to new heights so you really live in true presence, love and peace
- Open to your soul’s messages and intuition, so you can really own and follow them
- Expand into new energies, energies that will become part of you to help you to be happier, manifest quicker and tune in to the guidance we all have, but have blocked ourselves from hearing
- Move into the world of magic, miracles and flow so you can fall in love with yourself, others and life!
This package is for people wanting to see their lives look completely different and are ready to do the deep, hard work that will take you there. Maybe you’ve even reached the ultimate low or a breaking point in your life & feel lost. You may not even know what you need; you just know you’re ready for things to be different. Whatever the case, this package is the perfect package to turn it all around!
"It is my sincere intention that every session is life-changing!" - Deborah Acker
ONE-ON-ONE COACHING NOT A GOOD FIT? CHECK OUT MY ONLINE AND IN-PERSON WORKSHOPS HERE!
Not sure which one of the above is right for you? Let’s connect! Simply email me through the Contact Page of my website or at firstname.lastname@example.org, and I will get back to you asap!
“In just one hour-long session with Deborah, I had new awareness of long-held negative beliefs. I didn’t realize how much these beliefs were sabotaging my efforts towards more complete relationships. The awareness I gained, helped me to act and move towards a better future. Thanks Deb, for opening my heart to more.” – Dacia C.
“Deb is one of those rare people who has the ability to cut right through the clutter and get to what is real and what matters. I value her ear, her advice and most importantly, her friendship.” – Lara M.