Why I Don’t Always Recommend Gratitude

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, gratitude has been on my mind. And, while I have a regular gratitude practice that you can read about below, before I do this, I want to address the pitfalls that can occur when we’re working exclusively with gratitude. Often we are taught when something isn’t working for us or when something goes wrong to go immediately into being grateful for it. And, while this can work, it often doesn’t work when there’s a charge, trigger or untruth to it. Let me explain. Say a family member hurt you at some point in your […]

The biggest issue (and growth opportunity) you’re likely unaware of

Years ago, when I was just getting into this work, the therapist I was working with at the time used to tell me all the time, “Deb, you’re not being relational.” I remember at the time not even fully understanding what this meant, let alone being able to incorporate it into how I was showing up. But, what I’ve come to realize is this is one of our biggest issues (and growth opportunities) in today’s world. So, first of all, let me explain what this means, in case this term is new to you, or even if, like me, you […]

The thing that stops us from having the life we want: Our Patterns

How to Identify and Clear Our Patterns and Be True to Ourselves I work with a lot of people around their patterns and pain, and what I’ve come to realize is this is the single-biggest thing that’s stopping us from having the life we want. So, first of all, what is a pattern? A pattern in the way that I define it is a set of behaviors, beliefs, emotions, blocks or energies that keep recurring over and over in our lives. One super common pattern I see is settling for less than you desire and deserve in your life. Many times, […]

What Causes Our Patterns and How to Heal Them

I work with a lot of women who come to me with things they are wanting in their life. This can include everything from attracting their love partner to making more money and everything in between. And, the one common thing I see is, while they have a strong desire for what they are wanting, they are subconsciously stopping this from occurring because of patterns and pain they’ve taken on and experienced in their childhood. Let me explain. Say, for instance, you are desiring a love partner. You may even have no difficulty meeting men. Unfortunately, though, the men you do […]

Are you protecting yourself unnecessarily?

Three Ways We Try to Have Control in Our Lives I want to talk to you about the ways we protect ourselves. For me, I’m noticing that, many times, to try to protect myself or keep myself safe, I try to determine an outcome before I step forward. For example, if I’m putting my work out to a group, I’ll try to figure out if they’ll say yes and even think that if I word something a specific way or say too much/too little, this can have an impact. This gets magnified with being super intuitive, as I’m constantly trying […]

Where are you dangerous?

The other night I was having dinner with a friend and the question, “Where are you dangerous?” came up. At first, it took me a bit aback. There was something about the question itself that felt dangerous, something that when the question itself truly landed in me, scared me a bit. This was understandable, too, as it’s easy, and really, safe, not to think of our lives in this context. After all, we’re all doing the best we can in any given moment, and most of us are conditioned to move away from things that scare us, or are even […]

One Small Way You Can Make a Big Difference this Valentine’s Day and Beyond

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There’s something I’ve been noticing for quite some time now, and with everything that’s going on in the world, and ironically, with the upcoming “love” holiday, now, more than ever, it’s important to talk about this. What is it, you ask? It’s about how we give love. Most of us give it like it’s a limited resource or like it’s a million dollars we’re giving away. We reserve it for the special few and only after it’s truly been earned. (Love needs to be earned is such a common pattern.) But my question to you is why? Love is free. Love is […]

The Impact of Saturday’s March on Collective Consciousness

Saturday’s March really touched me. To see people all over the world coming together was beautiful. And, as I was driving home later that day, I got a hit to check-in on our collective consciousness. Not surprisingly, with that many people taking a peaceful stand, the collective consciousness rose. Truthfully, as an Energy Healer and Consciousness Leader, and in general, someone who lives in the energy, the shift was palpable, and I felt super excited for our world. This shift in our world is the key to big change – in our individual lives, in our government, and most importantly, […]

Inner Peace in 15 Minutes

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I receive a lot of requests for “quick” help for inner peace, happiness, abundance and overcoming fear, and, while I get the desire behind these requests, underneath these requests is a pattern I recognize quite well. What pattern is this? It’s the pattern of wanting the answers and a quick solution. It makes sense, too, as we come into this world wired that way. You see, when we’re just in our energy state, and not in physical form, things are only all good, and because time and space doesn’t exist there, we literally think of something and it’s there. We […]

Will this be you heading into the New Year?

As December is wrapping up, I’ve been working with a lot of people getting ready for the New Year. And, one of the biggest, untalked-about secrets to change is choice. What do I mean by this? It’s not just saying that this year is going to be different, Instead, it’s actually taking the steps necessary to make that happen. Many of us desire a different life, but it takes bravery and heart to be willing to weather the storms to actually create that life and to stop making excuses. So, if you fall into this category, and are ready to […]