My Personal Struggle Over the Holidays

I remember the last holiday season I had with my mom. It was over 20 years ago now, and I remember it being a really hard time. She had put in for leave at work, and while at the time I didn’t fully understand the gravity of what was happening, it was like there was a dark cloud over us, and really, a heaviness, and no matter what we did during that time, it was always there. She ended up passing away only a couple of months later, and it was devastating, though this would only be the beginning of […]

Why I Don’t Always Recommend Gratitude

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, gratitude has been on my mind. And, while I have a regular gratitude practice that you can read about below, before I do this, I want to address the pitfalls that can occur when we’re working exclusively with gratitude. Often we are taught when something isn’t working for us or when something goes wrong to go immediately into being grateful for it. And, while this can work, it often doesn’t work when there’s a charge, trigger or untruth to it. Let me explain. Say a family member hurt you at some point in your […]

The Unexpected Reason Why You’re Anxious

How to Shift Anxiety Many times we find ourselves in state of anxiety, and we may think we know why, but what if there’s something that no one’s talking about that could help you to improve you’re anxiety almost instantly? Through my work, I’ve uncovered the missing piece to why you may be feeling anxious and what you can do to begin to shift this for good. Check out the video here:   And, I’d love to know if this is something you’ve done before and if so, how you will shift your behavior. Comment below and share!

The biggest issue (and growth opportunity) you’re likely unaware of

Years ago, when I was just getting into this work, the therapist I was working with at the time used to tell me all the time, “Deb, you’re not being relational.” I remember at the time not even fully understanding what this meant, let alone being able to incorporate it into how I was showing up. But, what I’ve come to realize is this is one of our biggest issues (and growth opportunities) in today’s world. So, first of all, let me explain what this means, in case this term is new to you, or even if, like me, you […]

Is Your Five Year Old Self Creating Your Present-Day Reality?

The fall has been a super busy time, but I’d wanted to share with you a video I did on how our childhood patterns create our present-day reality. You may not realize it, but many times, your five year old self is ruling your present day! Check out the below video to find out how and get a better understanding of what you can do to begin to shift this! How Our Childhood Patterns Create Our Current-Day Reality:   And, I’d love to hear what comes up for you with this and how this video lands for you, so don’t to […]

The thing that stops us from having the life we want: Our Patterns

How to Identify and Clear Our Patterns and Be True to Ourselves I work with a lot of people around their patterns and pain, and what I’ve come to realize is this is the single-biggest thing that’s stopping us from having the life we want. So, first of all, what is a pattern? A pattern in the way that I define it is a set of behaviors, beliefs, emotions, blocks or energies that keep recurring over and over in our lives. One super common pattern I see is settling for less than you desire and deserve in your life. Many times, […]

What Causes Our Patterns and How to Heal Them

I work with a lot of women who come to me with things they are wanting in their life. This can include everything from attracting their love partner to making more money and everything in between. And, the one common thing I see is, while they have a strong desire for what they are wanting, they are subconsciously stopping this from occurring because of patterns and pain they’ve taken on and experienced in their childhood. Let me explain. Say, for instance, you are desiring a love partner. You may even have no difficulty meeting men. Unfortunately, though, the men you do […]

Are you protecting yourself unnecessarily?

Three Ways We Try to Have Control in Our Lives I want to talk to you about the ways we protect ourselves. For me, I’m noticing that, many times, to try to protect myself or keep myself safe, I try to determine an outcome before I step forward. For example, if I’m putting my work out to a group, I’ll try to figure out if they’ll say yes and even think that if I word something a specific way or say too much/too little, this can have an impact. This gets magnified with being super intuitive, as I’m constantly trying […]

Where are you dangerous?

The other night I was having dinner with a friend and the question, “Where are you dangerous?” came up. At first, it took me a bit aback. There was something about the question itself that felt dangerous, something that when the question itself truly landed in me, scared me a bit. This was understandable, too, as it’s easy, and really, safe, not to think of our lives in this context. After all, we’re all doing the best we can in any given moment, and most of us are conditioned to move away from things that scare us, or are even […]

Should “Popularity” Matter to You as An Adult?

Finding Connection Without Taking Sides It’s been decades since I was in high school. Since leaving, I had forgotten about the popularity paradigms that plagued most awkward teenagers throughout their adolescent years. Yes, since then, occasionally I have been pressured to drink when I haven’t wanted to, and on a rare moment, I see people seeking to be, look and act cool. But, really, I haven’t given it much thought since I was 17. That is, until I went on a trip to Ecuador, paired with a bunch of strangers, ranging from ages 17 to sixties plus. At first it […]